Understanding Relationship Traps
Understanding Relationship Traps and Building True Connection
More often than not, people fall into the traps of drama and games
in their relationships, which prevents honest, intimate, and open
communication to flourish between them. Those games are pre- wired
in our minds and are played unconsciously.
When working with clients I emphasize on paying attention to the words and sentences they use, along with how they feel and the thoughts that come;
by this practice they bring awareness towards their motives behind behaviors,
pay attention to their partner's needs hear what they mean underneath the apparent. When we practice open and honest communication in a safe and therapeutic environment we learn to cultivate more authentic and spontaneous relationships in our lives.
In the sessions, I encourage my clients to use the "I" statements. Eg. "I feel...." rather than "you made me feel..." It is a subtle way of owning the experience and taking responsibility of our own feelings. Often we put unrealistic expectations on our loved ones to gratify us the way we want and to fulfill all our needs, but people and relationships are complex and sometimes despite wanting to, our loves ones cannot completely fully meet our needs, or they may not even be aware of how their actions might make us feel. Taking charge of our feelings empowers us and enables the desired change. It shifts the focus from external point of evaluation to internal, where we can examine our own selves and work on our emotional growth.
in their relationships, which prevents honest, intimate, and open
communication to flourish between them. Those games are pre- wired
in our minds and are played unconsciously.
When working with clients I emphasize on paying attention to the words and sentences they use, along with how they feel and the thoughts that come;
by this practice they bring awareness towards their motives behind behaviors,
pay attention to their partner's needs hear what they mean underneath the apparent. When we practice open and honest communication in a safe and therapeutic environment we learn to cultivate more authentic and spontaneous relationships in our lives.
In the sessions, I encourage my clients to use the "I" statements. Eg. "I feel...." rather than "you made me feel..." It is a subtle way of owning the experience and taking responsibility of our own feelings. Often we put unrealistic expectations on our loved ones to gratify us the way we want and to fulfill all our needs, but people and relationships are complex and sometimes despite wanting to, our loves ones cannot completely fully meet our needs, or they may not even be aware of how their actions might make us feel. Taking charge of our feelings empowers us and enables the desired change. It shifts the focus from external point of evaluation to internal, where we can examine our own selves and work on our emotional growth.